Romy Miller is a woman. She understands women. Now she’s going to help you do the same. Understanding Women : The Definitive Guide to Meeting, Dating and Dumping, if Necessary will turn you into a dating machine and help you go from loser to lover in no time flat. Taking an in-your-face approach, this book leaves no excuses for you to not only succeed with women but to understand them as well. If this book doesn’t do the trick, nothing will.

5 Responses to “Understanding Women: The Definitive Guide to Meeting, Dating and Dumping, if Necessary”

1. Douglas Rau says:

   February 3, 2010 at 12:00 am

   I don’t care that she calls herself an expert. I don’t care if she claims to have helped hundreds of men. I don’t even care if she’s married (may God have mercy on the poor fellow, he must have self esteem issues to believe he deserves nothing better than a dictator for a wife, rather than a companion). The fact is Romy Miller has issues with men.

   Now, not all of her advice is useless. For example, “So before you call her a “Man hating bitch” remember that she’s probably been hurt by one of your kind and is still smarting from it. Don’t take it personally.” While I don’t like the impression that she gives that this excuses said “bitchy” behavior, I agree it does probably stem from past experience and shouldn’t be taken personally.

   On the other hand, a lot of her “advice” is disturbing or just flat out wrong.

   *”Do not ever let her pay for anything!” Not only is this advice complete with an exclamation mark but it comes italicized as well. Now I agree that a man should pay for everything on the first date and maybe even on dates two and three. However, if you’ve been seeing a woman for, say, two months and she’s still not even chipping in for gas, you don’t have a girlfriend. You have a gold digger and you seriously need to ask yourself if it’s worth it and if you don’t deserve better (let me help you with that second one: You do!). Obviously, exceptions apply–if she’s in the midst of a career change and she doesn’t have a lot of spare cash right now, for example or if you’re considerably well off financially. Those exceptions apply but even they are not without their limits.

   *”Teenybopper music? Kenny G?! Oh, good Lord! Hide those CDs or throw them away, which is even better.” I read a similar inquiry in an issue of Men’s Health and I love the advice the friendly bar tender gave: “If she’s forcing you to change your music, I’m not going to tell you to grow up. I’m going to tell you to grow something else.” Now I’m not a big fan myself but Kenny G has sold a lot of records over the years and there has to be some women out there who like his music. Compromise is fine but if she’s forcing you to change your music and you give in, it might be an early sign that she’s out to change more about you. Know what you will and will NOT compromise on.

   *”You can’t decided [yes, "decided". Her typo, not mine. Nice work, editor.] which one you prefer, in fact, you like both of these chicks. I can hear you now: Can I have both of them? Please? I promise to be real good! No, you can’t. Who do you think you are? A rock star?” Actually, this is very tricky but the fact of the matter is, you don’t know if she’s seeing someone else on the side as well. Unless you’ve had “the talk” (which, by the way, should only be “the dreaded talk” if you’ve realized that you don’t want to be with her but are scared to be without her. Listen to me: it’s over. You can’t make something right just because you want it to be right), you’re under no obligation to see only her. What, did she make you take vows on the first date? If she did, RUN, MAN!!!!! She’s had issues in the past with men leaving her, maybe ex’s, maybe her father but whoever it is, it’s going to cause problems at some point. There’s nothing wrong with “playing the field” AT FIRST! Once you start to feel more attracted to one then the other, however (and don’t worry, you’ll know which one), do the other one a favor and let her down gently and honestly. Never string a woman only for the hell of it (or for you know what). You’ll only pay for that later and the cost (monetary or otherwise) can be AWFULLY high.
2. C. menzies says:

   September 24, 2009 at 12:00 am

   I read positive reviews for this book and was hoping for an intelligent, representative female perspective on dating with insights into the expectations, desires, and basic frame of mind and/or attitudes that a woman has in dating. I also wondered how women perceive different ways of approaching and introducing yourself and what less obvious faux pas to avoid. This was not helpful in finding these insights.

   I found the writing to be bland and un-nuanced with clear indications that the writer knew very little about a shy man’s(or even typical man’s) perspective. And the understanding of women in general was pretty basic and painted a very shallow, materialistic, and simplistic picture of the minds of women. It was essentially everything that could be gathered about women and dating from a sitcom, and presented very hackneyed ideas about how they should be approached, like not being a slob, bringing flowers, having a job, a nice car, and other unhelpful ideas for dealing with real human beings.

   I gave the book more than a fair chance by reading about 2/3-3/4 of it and really decided it should be thrown away in the trash(which I never do with books). While I’m sure some of the population was represented here I can’t imagine that anyone but those men who were kept in cellars for the first 20 years of their lives would find it at all enlightening.
3. poor man says:

   March 28, 2009 at 12:00 am

   dreadful book…yet another men’s dating book on how to attract gold-diggers,pscho chicks and men haters,by supplication,grovelling and bill paying…guys do yourselves a favour and read instead:-

   1) in sheep’s clothing by george k simon

   2) booby trapped men beware by june marshall

   3) the predatory female by rev shannon

   4) “venus”/”that bitch” by roy sheppard/mary t cleary(highly recommended)

   the last book (4) is the best book as it summarises the main points of books(1)to(3) and gets men to focus on the reality of modern day women!!!

   beware of negative comments by cpltm (maybe the book’s author in disguise) if like a lot of the reviewers you are given this book 1/2 stars!!!
4. Jon Beckmon says:

   February 25, 2009 at 12:00 am

   On Page 96 of this book it says some guys think a woman is damaged goods because she has a kid or two in tow. She says that men that think this way (meaning that women who already have kids are damaged goods) are jerks and that only jerks think this way. So I guess Romy is calling me

   a jerk! I think these women are damaged goods as well. I am defintely

   no jerk however. I’m one of the nicest guy’s you will ever meet. But to

   me women that already have kids are damaged goods. Why would I not want

   someone like myself? I don’t have any kids. I can marry a girl and have

   kids with her and they will be OUR kids. Most likely the women that have

   these kids are either jerks themselves or they were married to a jerk.

   Otherwise they would still be married to the man and would have no need

   of another man. I do have sympathy for women who have kids and got divorced because they were married to a jerk who cheated on them, hit them

   or did other horrific things (using drugs, using alcohol, etc). But sympathy is not a reason to get married to someone. I need someone who

   Chose better for their first man. Meaning she chose me and me alone.

   If she already chose really good for her man then obviously they are still married and hence are not for me. Maybe a woman that is nice and

   has kids in tow can meet a man that is nice and already has kids in tow

   himself (probably because his wife was an alcoholic, cheater, druggie or

   some other reason to get divorced…There aren’t many reasons that are good enough for divorce). But Romy shouldn’t be saying that all men are jerks that think of these women as damaged goods. I would think the Man above is damaged goods too if I were a woman that had never had kids yet.

   But I’m a man and do think those women are damaged goods.

   I’m not interested in another man’s leftovers.

   On page 98 It talks about not discussing how many partners that the

   person has had. But that is vital information and should always be

   discussed. That is a must know before marriage. I certainly want

   to know quickly how many partners my future wife has had because if

   it’s the wrong number I need to look for a different woman to marry instead. I don’t want to waste my valuable time with a woman that has

   been with a man already.

   Sincerely,

   Jon Beckmon
5. A law school survivor says:

   February 22, 2009 at 12:00 am

   As I was reading this, I just couldn’t shake the feeling that this was written by one more man hating witch, and her “cruel to be kind” approach is just so freakin’ phony!!! If you’re a guy who’s starting to believe that men and women aren’t teammates to each other anymore, this book is your proof!!!